Dostala jsem n\u011bkolik e-mail\u016f od \u010dten\u00e1\u0159\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed se m\u011b ptaj\u00ed, jak b\u00fdt soucitn\u00fd s druh\u00fdmi lidmi, ani\u017e bych na sebe brala v\u0161echno jejich utrpen\u00ed. Otev\u0159\u00edt sv\u00e9 srdce druh\u00e9mu \u010dlov\u011bku m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt emocion\u00e1ln\u011b n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9, pokud c\u00edt\u00edte v\u0161echnu jeho bolest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Je to neuv\u011b\u0159iteln\u00e1 ot\u00e1zka, proto\u017ee to ukazuje:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
z\u00e1m\u011br b\u00fdt soucitn\u00fd a m\u00edt otev\u0159en\u00e9 srdce; a
uv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00ed si toho, \u017ee p\u0159i navazov\u00e1n\u00ed kontaktu s druh\u00fdmi lidmi jsou pot\u0159eba hranice.
Pod\u00edvejme se tedy kr\u00e1tce na oboj\u00ed, ne\u017e si \u0159ekneme, jak vyv\u00e1\u017eit otev\u0159enost srdce s emocion\u00e1ln\u00edmi hranicemi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Z\u00e1m\u011br b\u00fdt soucitn\u00fd a s otev\u0159en\u00fdm srdcem
M\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 c\u00edtit se v\u016f\u010di druh\u00fdm lidem otev\u0159en\u011b-srde\u010dn\u011b, kdy\u017e se chovaj\u00ed frustruj\u00edc\u00edm zp\u016fsobem nebo maj\u00ed n\u00e1zory, kter\u00e9 se od t\u011bch na\u0161ich dost li\u0161\u00ed. Ale i kdy\u017e tomu tak nen\u00ed, udr\u017eet si otev\u0159en\u00e9 srdce a b\u00fdt soucitn\u00fd, kdy\u017e druz\u00ed trp\u00ed, m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt tak\u00e9 obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9, proto\u017ee na sv\u011bt\u011b je tolik utrpen\u00ed, \u017ee to m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt zdrcuj\u00edc\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Za prv\u00e9, neexistuje \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd po\u017eadavek, abychom m\u011bli srdce otev\u0159en\u00e9 nebo souc\u00edtili s druh\u00fdmi. M\u016f\u017ee sta\u010dit, kdy\u017e budeme m\u00edt r\u00e1di sami sebe a budeme nach\u00e1zet spokojenost a \u00fa\u017eas ve sv\u011bt\u011b kolem n\u00e1s. Ale jak\u00e1 je to p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitost, otev\u0159\u00edt srdce a c\u00edtit l\u00e1sku k ostatn\u00edm lidem kolem n\u00e1s!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Za druh\u00e9, nikde nen\u00ed ps\u00e1no, \u017ee mus\u00edme m\u00edt srdce otev\u0159en\u00e9 neust\u00e1le. M\u016f\u017eeme se v otev\u00edr\u00e1n\u00ed srdce trochu cvi\u010dit, a to je mo\u017en\u00e1 v\u0161e, co m\u016f\u017eeme d\u011blat. Pomalu rozv\u00edj\u00edme schopnost m\u00edt srdce otev\u0159en\u00e9 \u010dast\u011bji a tato praxe \u010dast\u011bj\u0161\u00edho poci\u0165ov\u00e1n\u00ed l\u00e1sky je obohacuj\u00edc\u00ed zku\u0161enost\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nejd\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed je zkontrolovat si: M\u00e1m z\u00e1m\u011br b\u00fdt otev\u0159en\u00fd srdcem v\u016f\u010di ostatn\u00edm lidem ve sv\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b? Cht\u011bl bych m\u00edt soucit s utrpen\u00edm druh\u00fdch – a\u0165 u\u017e jde o lidi, kter\u00e9 zn\u00e1m, nebo o lidi trp\u00edc\u00ed po cel\u00e9m sv\u011bt\u011b? Zm\u011bnila by se moje odpov\u011b\u010f, kdybych nemusel vz\u00edt na sebe v\u0161echno jejich utrpen\u00ed?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Zamyslete se nad t\u00edm, jak\u00fd by mohl b\u00fdt v\u00e1\u0161 z\u00e1m\u011br.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed hranice na ochranu va\u0161ich limit\u016f
Mnoho lid\u00ed odm\u00edt\u00e1 z\u00e1m\u011br souc\u00edtit, proto\u017ee jim p\u0159ipad\u00e1 obt\u00ed\u017en\u00fd, zdrcuj\u00edc\u00ed, zat\u011b\u017euj\u00edc\u00ed. A tak se tato mo\u017enost uzav\u00edr\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ale co kdybyste to mohli d\u011blat, ani\u017e byste se zahltili, ani\u017e byste na sebe vzali v\u0161echno utrpen\u00ed druh\u00fdch? Jak by takov\u00e1 mo\u017enost mohla vypadat a \u0159ekli byste si na ni ano?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mohlo by to b\u00fdt uzn\u00e1n\u00ed, \u017ee m\u00e1te sv\u00e9 hranice a \u017ee nechcete, aby tyto hranice byly neust\u00e1le zahlcov\u00e1ny t\u011b\u017ek\u00fdmi emocemi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mohli byste m\u00edt srdce otev\u0159en\u00e9 tak dlouho, dokud na to c\u00edt\u00edte kapacitu, a pak si d\u00e1t prostor pro sebe, abyste na\u010derpali energii a vy\u017eivili se?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mohli byste c\u00edtit soucit, ani\u017e byste c\u00edtili spoustu utrpen\u00ed?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bylo by to n\u011bco, co by v\u00e1m d\u011blalo dob\u0159e?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Hled\u00e1n\u00ed vyv\u00e1\u017een\u00e9 cesty
S uv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00edm si t\u011bchto limit\u016f a se z\u00e1m\u011brem b\u00fdt otev\u0159en\u00fd a soucitn\u00fd\u2026 jak by mohlo vypadat kr\u00e1\u010den\u00ed po t\u00e9to vyv\u00e1\u017een\u00e9 cest\u011b?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pokud ve sv\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b otev\u0159ete sv\u00e9 srdce druh\u00fdm lidem a oni v\u00e1m (mo\u017en\u00e1 ne\u00famysln\u011b) zp\u016fsob\u00ed bolest v srdci \u2026 mohli byste si uv\u011bdomit, \u017ee jste zran\u011bni, a d\u00e1t si prostor, abyste se o tuto bolest postarali? D\u00e1t si l\u00e1sku a soucit, proc\u00edtit bolest, odpustit \u2026 ne\u017e znovu otev\u0159ete sv\u00e9 srdce? S prax\u00ed by to mohla b\u00fdt p\u016flhodina a\u017e hodina prostoru, ale v p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b pot\u0159eby by to mohlo b\u00fdt p\u016fl dne, dva dny atd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Takto va\u0161e srdce nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt neust\u00e1le odhalen\u00e9, otev\u0159en\u00e9, zraniteln\u00e9. M\u016f\u017eete rozpoznat, kdy na to m\u00e1te kapacitu, a otev\u0159\u00edt ji\u2026 a rozpoznat, kdy ji pot\u0159ebujete chr\u00e1nit a starat se o sebe. Ani v jednom sm\u011bru to nen\u00ed v\u0161echno nebo nic. V t\u011bchto vod\u00e1ch se lze nau\u010dit orientovat prax\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pokud chcete c\u00edtit soucit s druh\u00fdmi, kte\u0159\u00ed trp\u00ed, mohli byste jim pos\u00edlat l\u00e1sku, ani\u017e byste museli znovu vytv\u00e1\u0159et ve\u0161ker\u00e9 utrpen\u00ed ve sv\u00e9m srdci? Kdy\u017e nap\u0159\u00edklad mysl\u00edm na lidi, kte\u0159\u00ed jsou ve v\u00e1lkou zm\u00edtan\u00fdch zem\u00edch, mohu vid\u011bt jejich utrpen\u00ed a m\u00edt zdrav\u00e9 p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed, aby toto utrpen\u00ed skon\u010dilo\u2026 ani\u017e bych ve sv\u00e9m srdci c\u00edtil ag\u00f3nii. Zkuste to nyn\u00ed: dok\u00e1\u017eete myslet na n\u011bkoho, kdo proch\u00e1z\u00ed t\u011b\u017ek\u00fdm obdob\u00edm, a p\u0159\u00e1t si, aby byl tento \u010dlov\u011bk \u0161\u0165astn\u00fd \u2026 ani\u017e byste p\u0159ijali v\u0161echno jeho utrpen\u00ed do sv\u00e9ho srdce?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Takov\u00e9 zdrav\u00e9 p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed, aby druz\u00ed byli \u0161\u0165astn\u00ed, aby na\u0161li klid, aby m\u00e9n\u011b trp\u011bli \u2026 m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt pocitem l\u00e1sky, ani\u017e by museli c\u00edtit tolik utrpen\u00ed. Podle m\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed c\u00edt\u00edm ur\u010ditou m\u00edru zlomen\u00ed srdce, kdy\u017e vid\u00edm, jak druz\u00ed trp\u00ed, ale toto zlomen\u00ed srdce nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt nijak velk\u00e9 ani mi nemus\u00ed \u00fapln\u011b vyb\u00edjet baterky. M\u016f\u017ee to b\u00fdt n\u011bco, co pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1m mnohokr\u00e1t, n\u011bco, co mohu za\u010d\u00edt oce\u0148ovat, a dokonce milovat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nakonec j\u00edt po vyv\u00e1\u017een\u00e9 cest\u011b znamen\u00e1 b\u00fdt ochotn\u00fd otev\u0159\u00edt sv\u00e9 srdce a b\u00fdt s velk\u00fdm zlomen\u00fdm srdcem, ani\u017e bych se cel\u00fd vydal, ani\u017e bych se \u00fapln\u011b ztratil. A to znamen\u00e1 j\u00edt po cest\u011b s ur\u010ditou ochotou zkoumat, pokazit to a u\u010dit se, kdy\u017e po n\u00ed jdete.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Dostala jsem n\u011bkolik e-mail\u016f od \u010dten\u00e1\u0159\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed se m\u011b ptaj\u00ed, jak b\u00fdt soucitn\u00fd s druh\u00fdmi lidmi, ani\u017e bych na sebe brala v\u0161echno jejich utrpen\u00ed. Otev\u0159\u00edt sv\u00e9 srdce druh\u00e9mu \u010dlov\u011bku m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt emocion\u00e1ln\u011b n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9, pokud c\u00edt\u00edte v\u0161echnu jeho bolest.<\/p>\n
Je to neuv\u011b\u0159iteln\u00e1 ot\u00e1zka, proto\u017ee to ukazuje:<\/p>\n
z\u00e1m\u011br b\u00fdt soucitn\u00fd a m\u00edt otev\u0159en\u00e9 srdce; a
\nuv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00ed si toho, \u017ee p\u0159i navazov\u00e1n\u00ed kontaktu s druh\u00fdmi lidmi jsou pot\u0159eba hranice.
\nPod\u00edvejme se tedy kr\u00e1tce na oboj\u00ed, ne\u017e si \u0159ekneme, jak vyv\u00e1\u017eit otev\u0159enost srdce s emocion\u00e1ln\u00edmi hranicemi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":179,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pmpro_default_level":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-178","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-seberozvoj","pmpro-has-access"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dovedomi.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/178","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dovedomi.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dovedomi.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dovedomi.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dovedomi.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=178"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/dovedomi.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/178\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":181,"href":"https:\/\/dovedomi.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/178\/revisions\/181"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dovedomi.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/179"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dovedomi.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=178"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dovedomi.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=178"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dovedomi.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=178"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}